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An article today describes a homeowner who is upset to find that his neighbors don’t appreciate his lack of lawn mowing.
Thoughts/questions:
1. I believe the neighbor was using sarcasm as a weapon.
2. It’s always kind of strange when someone writes a letter and then says they are in the majority…they might be…might not…is there, like a vote on this type of thing?
3. I can’t stand tall grass or terrible yards. But that’s me. I get it, some people don’t care about how their lawn looks. There’s a limit though, even with me. I am probably top third in my neighborhood in keeping the lawn cut. If I let it go for two weeks in the spring though, it’s going to look terrible. So, if I go on vacation or something, we are going to have a terrible lawn unless….my neighbor cuts the front. And, he does! When he goes out of town, I cut his yard…no issue whatsoever. The neighbor behind me has some kind of grass that just doesn’t grow. I think he cuts it like twice a year and there are no issues with it being overgrown or anything.
4. We never really know what people are going through. When someone is overwhelmed, apparently like in this case, they focus only on keeping going. They aren’t nearly as concerned with appearance…and I totally get that. This is why I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. In my own real estate business, we are often times confronted with working with buyers and sellers who might have things going on in their lives. Marriages, deaths, births…so I tend to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. There are limits, but just try to be a good human.
5. I’ve seen this argument used by the homeowner in the article a lot: If the person who was upset about my crappy yard had only come and talked to me face to face, it would have worked out. I’m trying to think about how that conversation goes…Hey man, would you please cut your grass, it looks awful. Then, the homeowner will go to reddit and say, “I can’t believe someone told me in person my lawn is terrible and should be cut”
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On Reddit, other places online, the homeowner will get sympathy about their plight. It’s pretty much guaranteed. So I don’t think that the neighbor confronting you about your yard is going to change anything.
What changes if someone did come and tell you your yard was trash? You’re still dealing with some sort of family issues. Are you really going to change because your neighbor confronted you?
6. It’s interesting that the homeowner says that he is not in violation of any HOA or city ordinances. Do you even know what your laws or codes are with relation to the height of your grass? I have no idea. One person that did know was the BTK killer. He was a psycho. Look him up. Not a great fellow. Are all code officers secretly serial killers? No. Are some a little off…most definitely.
The question of whether something is within legal limits and whether or not it bothers your neighbors are two different things. I think it would be fair to say that people who live in a subdivision tend to like to have things look a certain way.
I’m reminded of a friend of mine. For years, he’d lived in the city of St. Louis. Never had any issues with getting along with his neighbors. He asked me to help him find a house in the county so I did, and he got a beautiful home in the suburbs. One day we were talking and he was like, “the grass is a major issue out here, isn’t it?” I asked what he meant. He said that if he went out to cut his grass his neighbor on the right and left of him would also come out and cut their yards either right when he started or within hours of when he was finished. I’d never noticed it, but that’s true in my neighborhood too! If I see a yard close to me that is cut and mine isn’t, it’s like I’m letting everyone down. I typically save my lawn work for the weekends, but some of my neighbors are retired so like Wednesday morning at 10 you’ll often hear people cutting the grass.
7. What did you think about the postmarked letter? Was there a return address? If you were in the homeowners shoes, would you now confront the person who mailed the letter? I don’t know that it makes things better, especially if the neighbors have all decided that they don’t like the way you take care of your yard.
8. As for revenge, is it required in this situation? Do you, as other posters recommend, cut your lawn in a bad pattern? Refuse to cut the lawn at all? Or, do you consider actually cutting the grass on a fairly regular basis so that your yard is more in line with others around you?
9. You know, there are times when you assign a motive to someone and it’s not accurate. For example, let’s say a compliance officer comes to write you up for having a car parked in your driveway with expired tags. You’re probably thinking, I want to find the person who ratted me out…but what if that was just their way of saying they don’t like what you are doing? The same thing goes in this case. There’s a man who received a letter telling him that his grass is a mess and that at least one of his neighbors would appreciate it if he cut the grass. Do you need more of a confirmation to infer that maybe your grass hasn’t been taken care of and perhaps it’s time to take a serious look at the issue? Or do you just get angry at someone who might just be sending you a sign?
10. There is an issue that people just don’t seem to get: When you live in a subdivision or a neighborhood, if you don’t keep your property value up, it hurts the value of the properties around you. It’s usually not an issue of “Can you do a terrible job of keeping up your property” but more of “should you just maintain your yard to help maintain higher property values?
11. What would you do in this situation? Would you run to reddit, do nothing, or actually make an effort to take care of your yard? Put a comment in the comment section below.
Sources: https://www.newsweek.com/no-mow-may-neighbor-passive-aggressive-letter-new-dad-sparks-fury-1706838
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dennis_Rader
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